Running Your Patterns

A friend who is far away is sometimes much nearer than one who is at hand. Is not the mountain far more awe-inspiring and more clearly visible to one passing through the valley than to those who inhabit the mountain?
Kahlil Gibran

In life coaching there’s a term called Running Your Patterns. When we run our patterns, we repeat the
same things over and over again with different people, places and things. We enter and exit relationships
in much the same way, sometimes with decades in between. We follow the same subtle patterns and sometimes it’s so unconscious that it is impossible to see the pattern ourselves.
You might have a friend who has a pattern of meeting, falling out of love, and marrying again. You may know someone else who has a pattern of addiction that has affected his or her life.
In psychology it’s called reacting from cognitive biases – limiting beliefs that cause you to automatically respond, react, and live your life patterns unintentionally. Cognitive biases are beliefs we hold that color our views of situations, people, and relationships. We all fall into patterns. Some good, some bad. One man’s pattern is solely his. You may be confused why someone could fall victim to alcoholism, they may wonder why you fall into the pattern of busyness, or workaholism.

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