To Be Real: A Legacy of Truth


Guest blog post by Nelly Sanchez-Rivera, Director of Media & Public Relations for OnFire Books Writing Company.


I always thought legacy was a luxury reserved for the wealthy and, if you really think about it, it is.


One must possess a certain wealth of wisdom, compassion, and courage to leave behind a legacy of any real worth. The value of your legacy is in how it affects people. Perhaps, yours is a local legacy, or simply familial. Some legacies start small but ring so true they reach a universal appeal that practically guarantees their life message will be propagated for generations to come. Many of these begin under the guise of something simpler: the genuine desire to make a difference.


Something as simple as what you’d like to see practiced in your own family or community can reach others so profoundly that it changes them. They not only see your vision, they embrace it and what’s more, they adopt it. How much good could you do by just sharing what works for you with others? Think of the difference you could make in the lives of those who want to change but don’t know how or where to begin.


I suppose the real question is:  how honest are you willing to be?


It takes wisdom, compassion, and courage to be honest on the level in which you are real. When the pretenses slip away, what’s left? To be real is the legacy I would like to leave behind for my son and for future generations.


The Elements of Being Real

#1. Wisdom: The truth shall set you free

Deciding to live authentically is the first step to wisdom. You must create the time and space to regularly reflect on what’s true and real to you. These things may change over time and with experience, but your authenticity shouldn’t. It is an absolute must to be honest with yourself and others. Otherwise, you are just wasting your time and everyone else’s.


The more honest you are with yourself, the more wisdom you’ll attain. You don’t build wisdom through deceit, denial, or intellectualization, you build it by being honest. Above all, be honest with yourself. The more authentically you understand your truth, the better you’ll share it, and the greater its appeal and impact on the lives of others.


#2. Compassion: The greatest love of all

We are all part of something greater than ourselves, whether it’s natural or divine, or something else entirely. Each of us is a part of the human race and as such, none of us is born with all of the answers, but we all seek them. When others share their life lessons authentically, you feel compassion for them in much the same way that others will feel compassion for you, for sharing what’s real.


Sharing what’s real requires compassion in the form of forgiveness. You can’t share your real story without having forgiven yourself and those that have hurt you. And, we’ve all been hurt by someone. The greatest wisdom you can show is compassion. It’s the greatest act of love you can perform with yourself and others. A legacy of compassion, love and forgiveness is eternal.


#3. Courage: To be real

Having the courage to be yourself, to garner wisdom authentically and cultivate compassion, is at the root of the legacy I would like to leave behind, if only for my son. All the wisdom and compassion in the world is lost if one doesn’t have the courage to act on it. The test of a one’s character isn’t in knowledge or even what’s in one’s heart, it’s in one’s actions. It’s about what you do.


Courage is the backbone of your legacy. To forgive, love and live with compassion and courage is all the wisdom you’ll need for a lifetime.


What’s your legacy?…

Pattern Interrupt: One Action Step that Changes Everything

Pattern Interrupt: One Action Step that Changes Everything


One night can change your life forever.


At The Conversation Event one CEO said; “I arrived one man, and got on the airplane home, a completely different man. ”


How much influence you have can be easily assessed by analyzing your connecting points and speed of results.


Can you call people and connect them to others at a moment’s notice? Are you connected with world changers?


World changers are action oriented influencers. They make plans, execute easily, and pull together others who will drive change. Writing a book offers immediate influence but so does any major positive pattern interrupt that opens new doors. When you do something new – you begin to connect with new people, businesses and even new ways of thinking.



Over the years I began noticing that I had built a level of influence money can’t buy. My mission was to change lives through the written word, and the books I wrote made a lasting impact. At times, I partnered with CEOs, and celebrities and non profits on books. I remained open to new partnerships, and my network exploded.


I became a connector, who invested in others naturally.
Not because it helped us in any way but because I swathe opportunity to influence new ideas and businesses and lives.


You have that same opportunity each and everyday.
This is the cornerstone of influence. After years of investing and building trust equity, you find that people respond quickly when you request something. One call, gets results.


I texted an NFL player and told him to be at a meeting. He showed up. No questions asked. I told a popular radio show host to interview a homeless man. The text I got the next day said; “My show schedule is booked the next two months. But I’ll fit him in.”


The interview happened two days later.


Leaders have the ability to be influencers – but here’s the distinction – not all leaders are influential.


Some are just positional.


Do a pattern interrupt and touch someone new today.


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Authentic influence is powerful and productive. Entrepreneurs need influence for growth, expansion, credit, connections and results!



Tammy Kling is a best-selling author, TEDx Speaker, CEO of OnFire Books, and Ghostwriter of 251 books and counting, including: The CompassFreedom, and There’s More to Life than the Corner Office. Tammy’s latest book, WORDS is being used by the Ritz Carlton in their leadership training. 


Watch Tammy’s TEDx Talk on the Power of Words here: To book Tammy as a Speaker, please visit and follow her on Twitter (@tammykling) for the latest. 



What are your 5 family values?


Most people think about their culture and company Values, but few consider mapping out family values in writing. What could be more important than legacy?


This is what we talk about at our annual event, The Conversation. When 100 world changers arrive for the evening, they are handed out this values card.


The first value says, “We reject the idea that someone can be wealthy, without a strong legacy.


Each one is just as powerful and causes people to think, igniting ideas that build businesses and lives.


When I write a book for someone I always ask them this question; If you had 30 days to live, what life lesson would you want to pass on to your family or friends?

This is often the basis for the book.


It is also a great way to communicate, write down, and begin the conversation of creating a legacy that lasts for 1000 generations.


We’d like to hear from you about one of your personal values. Hit reply and let us know, what is one principle that you intend to build your life and business on?


I’m wearing this hat, as a reminder to have bold conversations. I want to do better and ignite more inspiring talks with everyone around me, including my kids. How about you?


P.S. If you want one of these hats click here.

– Tammy Kling

New York Times Best Selling Author

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