October is breast cancer awareness month. In honor of this month, we see pink everywhere. It’s posted on the side on buildings, on football team jerseys, and on the labels of the products we buy everyday, but do we honor this month in our personal lives?
I was one of those anti doctor, all natural green drink people who hadn’t seen a doctor in years until I was asked to write 7 healthcare books. I think I was supposed to learn something! And I did! I radically transformed my thinking.
Prevention, prevention, prevention.
Wayne Anderson in New York, we sat in the publishers office and the doctor said, “90% of cardiovascular disease is preventable.”
Same with vascular disease in general.
Here I thought it was just hereditary. I have done a decade of research on super centenarians, and it’s exercise that creates circulation and blood flow.
And studies also show exercise can prevent Alzheimer’s. It is not the crossword puzzles! While the old people are in the nursing homes doing crossword puzzles, you’ll be out running a 5k or taking a nice walk around the block. Exercise heals and scientific studies are continually showing how it regenerates the brain.
Amazing new research shows how even thirty minutes a day of activity can really extend your longevity.
This month I will be speaking to a university that asked me to address their students for Octobers breast cancer awareness month. Pinktober!
I’m not a traditionally pink kind of girl. I wear black. But this month the slogan is Think Pink.
This university has an ongoing health fair all month to educate young women about breast cancer because college students are traditionally stressed, burning the midnight oil, and not focused on prevention. (Aren’t we all!)
Tonight I will talk about mind, body and soul wellness.
What I call, total life prosperity.
Cancer awareness month isn’t just about getting our mammogram but about being aware of the emotional toxins in our lives.
What do you need to let go of?
People, places, and things.
Yesterday. a wealthy model begged me through tears, to write her book. She said, “This is my dying wish.”
As I tell her story to an auditorium filled with college students – I’ll tell them that she has only six weeks left to live. That’s what her doctors predict.
She has breast cancer and it metastasized to her stomach which is now enlarged with tumors.
And in her own words, she said, “Let go, of the bitterness, anger and pain. Because that’s what got me sick.” She had lived with a lifetime of childhood issues, memories, addiction anger and pain.
I know the women who are reading this are so über successful, and we are all running a million miles an hour.
I just wanted to take a moment to say, go to one of those many free mammo trucks, or go get your mammogram and all your other blood tests too. I recently got a body scan and that was a pretty cool deal. For $500 they show you instantly, your heart, veins, everything.
I’m a natural health freak, and I still do my green drinks, and trail runs.
But now I’ve added another critical focus which is prevention – and uncovering blind spots.
Everywhere you look it seems as if someone is talking about the word “disruption.”
Disruptive innovation is written about in articles and blogs on Forbes, Smart Money, and the Harvard Business Review, among others.
An entire industry has flourished around this one word and now there are disruption consultants, disruption awards, disruption conferences, and even disruption classes at major universities.
So what is disruption anyways? And should you pay attention to it?
Why such buzz about a single word? Disrupters are defined as individuals who drive dramatic change in organizations.
I suppose the first thing that comes to mind is: is that you? Is it me?
I know I’m a disruptor, never comfortable in group think or status quo. I created a hybrid company, where homeless people can contribute to book projects for major corporations. I love to see unique ideas and processes ignited.
But unless you’re an entrepreneur and captain of your own ship – being the change maker can be a challenge.
Disruption by definition means that feathers are ruffled. Lives are turned upside down. Systems and ideas are, well, disrupted!
Steve Jobs and other disrupters challenge the normal way of doing things.
Think about it. We all know what works, in our own individual lives and businesses. But what is it we don’t know we don’t know?
Most people think of the smart phone in terms of initial disruptive technology, because of the way it transformed how and where we do email, social media and work. Now it’s at your fingertips. Before, you did email on a computer.
Disruption is sexy, and the possibilities are endless.
Disruption isn’t foreign to the entrepreneur. We thrive on risk and the promise of change attached to it because we’ve seen it play out successfully!
Yet even corporate executives like it because they thirst for the golden solution to stagnation. Leaders want results, and disruption might just be the one thing their sales team needs to increase revenues year over year.
But what does disruption mean to you? As a business woman juggling a career, friends, family, and activities, isn’t life already disruptive enough? Maybe not.
In order to grow, it’s important to disrupt old business models.
Lets stop to consider the 3 ways we can leverage disruption to make a powerful impact:
- Intentionally look for blind spots.
What is it that needs to be eliminated from your life, circle of influence, or business?
Make a list. Blind spots on a car can be deadly and it’s the same way with a blind spot in businesses, finances, business models, employees, your health, and relationships. One employee attitude problem can turn into a customer lost. What is it you might have overlooked that needs addressing?
- Once you have your list, disrupt your existing pattern by detoxing the people, places and things that don’t fit.
Pattern interruption is a term used by psychologists to describe a process of achieving massive change by interrupting what you’re currently doing. Whether it’s an emotional or psychological pattern, eating habits, or a business system, disrupting the habits (pattern) you have developed is key.
- You are a change maker.
And in order to do more than you are already, to reach that next highest level of mastery, you will have to do something different. What is that disruptive innovation in your own life and business? How can you innovate your brand, signage, website, delivery process or communication to customers? What if you decided to radically disrupt your thinking and double your earnings goal, or triple your client list or impact next year? What if you decided to lead change in your entire industry?
Get to the whiteboard and start thinking bigger than big.
Disrupt your own brilliance today and make an even bigger impact on the world.
How much margin time do you have built into your life?
I often write about currency. When I was asked to give a TED talk I delivered it on words as currency.
It was a unique perspective for most and I received hundreds of comments, emails and letters about it. I said that words are just as important as the dollars in your bank account because words build or destroy, words can transform nations, start or stop wars – and save lives.
In business – words are critical. They are the engine that delivers your message and builds your brand.
This is the second article in a series on currency and I have been thinking about it for a long time. For years I’ve worked with world changers such as CEOs, celebrities, speakers and humanitarians. People who change and save lives. Samuel Bistrian, the CEO of Roma boots who has impacted the lives of orphans all over the world by doing boot drops and giving them free rain boots.
Greg Secker, in London, who travels to Africa and beyond fitting children with hearing aids. Harry Singha, the global king of youth leadership, who intentionally builds great leaders.
All of these world changers have one currency in common that allows them to live in excellence.
That currency is Time.
I learned years ago that you have a choice of two paths to follow. I could choose to follow the basic thinkers who say I don’t have enough time and I don’t have enough energy (or money, or fill in the blank) or I could take the other path – and create margin time to live my life’s calling. I could choose to create abundance, and give it too.
Time is currency.
Time runs out.
Time is valuable.
Time is an asset.
Time is more valuable than diamonds, rubies, dollars or gold.
Ask a cancer patient who doesn’t have much time left what they would give to have more.
How are you leveraging your time? Are you treating time like dollars or are you wasting it?
I coach people to use words as dollars. When you see a word as having a monetary value you are more selective about which words you choose.
It’s the same way with time.
When you view time as a currency that just might run out (it will) you will think of every hour in terms of equity.
Make margin time.
What is it you want to do that you haven’t yet done?
Create margin time and do it.
Here is more clarity:
If you want to achieve a major life goal or create a business or a life or a family that leaves a lasting legacy on the world, it’s possible that you will need more time.
You might need to think differently, or pattern interrupt your schedule.
Do you take advantage of the hours in the middle of the night? Two days a week I let my body naturally awake and instead of fighting that 3am alertness I get up and a focus on a project that changes lives. It’s an intentional awareness that I need those hours to accomplish these things.
What time can you carve out of your schedule for those unexpected guests, visits from someone in need, or events that could transform your business?
3 steps to leverage time:
- Think of every minute as a dollar. This change in thinking will change the way you view time. Don’t waste it.
- Create more time. Evaluate your schedule and make a list of time wasters. Eliminate those things right away. Even if it’s temporary (a month, a year)
- Set aside a new hour each day. Find an hour you currently do not utilize and use it to achieve your goal or project.
If you eat lunch out, for instance, and decide to use that hour to focus on a project, that’s 1 hour a day times 5 days a week and adds up to 20 extra hours a month. Imagine what you could do and achieve!
Create margin time.
Dream bigger than big and execute.
It might have been a negative term in the past, drawing up images of the mean girl in high school. But that’s not what it means today. Let’s not kid ourselves. No one desires to be unpopular.
Social equity is the new currency.
And no matter who you are or what you do, sharpening your relationship skills will multiply your business and enhance your life.
The key to social equity isn’t social media. It’s social relationships. It’s building equity, investing in them.
It’s not okay for instance, to be a leader in corporate America – who isn’t able to build relationships. Relationship building is not only necessary to lead people within the company, but in the day of social media, it is valuable to build relationship with customers as well.
In today’s intrapreneurial, socially responsible, green organization – a leader without followers is simply an executive who will soon need an updated resume.
And the same is true for entrepreneurs, or wives, or friends, or video gamers! It’s not enough to be a great gamer, for instance, without a following.
My friend, Mary, at All Players, helps gamers find sponsorships that earn them $250k a year. Let me repeat that….gamers! As in, teens that play Minecraft or Call of Duty. Why do they make more than their parents?
I was invited to speak on an all male panel of business leaders, CEOs and entrepreneurs including the founder of Black House White Market, a multimillion dollar brand. The black-and-white store sells fashionable clothes for women and was eventually purchased by Chicos.
When the moderator asked our view on customer service, there was a lot of chatter amongst the men about the old solid icons of customer service such as Nordstroms and the Ritz Carlton. Then, the conversation turned to technology and a discussion about the dangers of it and how it’s divided the world.
But I was the lone dissident. The future, I said, is about merging the old with the new.
Technology is vital. And at the end of the day whether you’re a gamer or a hotelier or a consultant – customer service is about relationships.
But the Ritz writes hand written notes! One of the guys mentioned.
And that’s great. But social equity is currency and clout in relationships. So whether it’s a hand written note, a text, an email, letter, telegram or a phone call, it’s about building equity – caring trust and confidence. And guess what? There’s a human at the end of that technology exchange.
I went on to say that business is about relationships. It’s always about connecting with the human heart.
Whether it’s 2013 or 4013, even gamers who make $250k a year, connect with followers who are humans. That’s why they are successful.
So how can you win too?
Here’s three tips to multiply success in business, life and love.
- Look people in the eye.
No really. Like, almost stare. See what kind of response you get when you engage your client, or your friends face to face.
In a world where everyone’s looking down, just look. Look them in the eye.
I had a book client who was a very busy CEO of a multimillion dollar corporation, and he looked me in the eye for over an hour. He didn’t touch his phone, he didn’t look around the room and he wasn’t distracted by anything. He captivated me with his focus.
- Be magnetic.
Engage, ask questions, and converse. Even if it’s not face to face, work to build social trust. Send gifts, articles, and videos.
- Invest in relationships in business and life. Be authentically focused on RELATIONSHIP.
Have you ever met someone you were drawn to like a magnet? Someone so powerful, creative and loving that you just wanted to be around them all the time? Or maybe that person is you.
I call these people 1% ers and they are the people I surround myself with!
A 1% er is someone that is at the top of their field.
If they are a professional athlete, they are the top 1% in their industry, not just in wealth but in who they are and how they change the world. 1% ers change the world through relationships, connections and action.
I did a TEDx talk and I spoke about how words are currency but the other important currencies in the world today cannot be ignored.
The currencies are words, time and relationships (social equity).
Forget about learning new technology and go back to the basics first. Sharpen your skills today.
Connect. Give. Look. There’s power in relationships.
That power will always exist. No matter how advanced we get.
A boyfriend once told me, “good things come to those who wait.”
I looked at him, jolted with that astonished awareness you have when you realize a relationship has just ended with one sentence. I knew it was over. Not because he wasn’t a good person but because our thoughts were misaligned in so many areas.
Even at 21 I knew what he, an investment banking executive ten years my senior, did not. You simply cannot apply the euphemisms or clichés of the world to life.
If you do, you’ll lose. Because even in investment banking, you have to know when to sell, when to buy and you might lose if you wait. Good things do not come to those who wait. Not in my world. And not in yours.
I’m already hearing the protests of people who want to argue this point. Don’t. Just don’t. If you want to debate it, please consider that you may have a blind spot in this area and keep reading. You’ll be glad you did.
Timing is what matters. No matter what industry you’re in, timing is a factor in success. And even in love relationships too!
Good things come to those who understand that windows of opportunity open, and if you’re not focused on delivering the right thing, at the right time, you may lose out. Yes, opportunities pass us by and new ones will come along. But if you’re in your zone, you know what your life calling is, and you’re focused on your plan, don’t miss out on that perfect opportunity made just for you.
Sometimes life requires a rapid decision.
Sometimes there’s a burning car on the side of the road and a life to be saved. Sometimes there’s a big business need that must to be filled, and your business is the perfect fit! Sometimes there’s the love of your life and you must respond, even if you don’t think you’re ready or you’re fearful about what might transpire.
My friend, Nick Vujicic, a world changer who travels all over the world speaking and changing lives, was at my home for dinner one night. The group included one of my other best friends, Kanae, and her boyfriend of two years. Nick and Kanae had a conversation that night that changed their lives, as they realized their souls were connected. Nick didn’t wait to see what would happen with her relationship. He made his feelings known. Today they’re married and have a beautiful boy.
(The other guy found the love of his life too.)
So lets get serious for a moment. Here’s why speed matters in your business. We live in a day and age in which responses are instantaneous.
Cell phone, texts, linked in, Facebook, email, and all accessible instantly from the palm of your hand.
In the past, a CEO would have been unattainable. But today, with mobile phones and tablets in everyone’s laps at night, at home or in bed, the CEO is as accessible as anyone else. Send an email or a text? It is likely you’ll get a response.
Even the CEO brings his or her work home, and work and home life collides. So that means, the game has changed. Speed matters.
Everything at work has sped up. Gone are the days of responding in a week. If you do, guarantee your competitor has offered up their solution or beaten you to a response, or client. Speed is just as important as what you deliver. Speed to market gains following and cements a brand in the culture.
Tips to accelerate in 2016:
Step #1: Step on the gas pedal.
Don’t wait, analyze, or contemplate any longer. Execute.
Make this the year of doing.
Step #2: Focus on compression over, a business plan.
Planning is over rated. Turn this conception upside down and instead of ready, aim, fire, just get clarity, and execute. Do the planning as you go. Compress results.
Perfectionism is the opposite of speed. There have been many times in my life when I have observed someone with a need for a perfect response commit the sin of delaying or not giving any response at all. Why didn’t you call that client back? I once asked. “I didn’t have an answer yet,” he said.
Today your client expects an instantaneous response. When they text, or email you it’s expected that you’ll see it instantly. So if you don’t respond, the assumption is that you’re ignoring.
Step #3: Get out of your own way.
Stop thinking too much. You are already amazing.
You already have the skills. Your brain is all you need.
Stop creating obstacles or traveling through the city of What-If in your mind! What if is a stumbling block that causes us to lose focus. (What if this happens? What if that happens?) Take a detour around What-if city and head for I can do it town instead.
Focus on speed in 2015 and execute, execute, execute. Do all things faster. Ramp up your response times. Pay bills when they come in. Respond to clients right away. If you don’t have the answer tell them. But respond fast!
Speed is an asset.